Can An Abuser Change?

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Domestic violence is unpredictable. After an incident of abuse, some abusers may act remorseful and promise to “change” in an effort to maintain the relationship (read: secure more control). The question is: Can an abuser break this cycle and genuinely change? An abuser has the potential to change if he* first acknowledges that: What he […]

Love is Not Abuse

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As parents, we have an inherent need to protect our children and keep them safe. We teach them to trust their instincts and empower them to say “no” when something doesn’t feel right. Maintaining a healthy, communicative relationship where our children feel trusted and supported will help them grow up to be assertive, self-aware individuals, […]

A Must Read! Drain the Swamp

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I don’t like mosquitoes and I have to admit the whole West Nile problem has me a bit freaked out. I am glad that health officials, scientists and others are working diligently to come up with solutions to the problem, and to decrease the incident rate of this scary and sometimes fatal disease. You may […]

Just in Time for Valentine’s Day

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This article starts, “Just in time for Valentine’s Day.” Sounds lovely, until you read the rest of the content. To quickly recap, a Florida judge ordered a man who was arrested for domestic violence to buy his wife flowers, take her out to a nice dinner, followed by bowling. Mr. Bray, the defendant, shoved his […]

Condolences to the Family, Friends and Neighbors of Jane Bashara

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Nearly 11 years ago, my next door neighbor, and dear friend, was murdered. A murder that remains unsolved to this day. My neighborhood, much like your quiet street, was rocked to the core with daily speculation — did he (her husband) kill her, did he have her killed, he is the prime suspect, he is […]

The Power of Numbers

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In December, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) released a 124-page report outlining the prevalence of domestic violence and sexual assault in the United States as measured by phone surveys to over 16,000 households. For those of us who work at HAVEN, the report was not as noteworthy for its content as it was for […]

A Message of Thanks From HAVEN

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Dear ASK Readers, This holiday season, we are grateful that our mission holds a special place in your heart. Through your generosity and commitment, HAVEN was able to serve 29,203 women, children and men last year. We were able to provide resources and reassurance to over 6,000 callers to our toll-free, 24-hour crisis and support […]

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

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One in two Americans live in fear.  Fear of being beaten, raped and/or abused.  Consciously or unconsciously, the fear permeates all facets of life — home, work, recreation, school, even shopping. So who is experiencing this fear? Women and girls, from the very young to the elderly.  For many years the burden of this fear fell […]

An Open Letter To Thomas Warda – Protecting Young Victims of Sexual Abuse!

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Dear Thomas Warda, She’ll eventually forget all about it, like it never even happened. That is what you suggested at the sentencing hearing of your client Mickey Gotwalt, a 52-year old high school softball coach in Tuscola County who was recently convicted of criminal sexual conduct with one of the young girls he coached. According […]

Why Is Twitter Promoting Violence Against Women?!

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Yesterday on Twitter a disturbing trending topic popped up. Trending topics show on the right side of Twitter, on every page, and are the most tweeted about topics that day. They’re usually a hashtag of some kind, and can link together people that want to discuss the same topic, like a recently release album or […]