The Dance of Your Life

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“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not […]

Living Whole-Heartedly

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The happiest people I know have something in common: they are whole-hearted in how they engage in their lives…whole-hearted in relating with others, in work, in meditation, and in play. They have a capacity to give themselves thoroughly to the present moment. Yet for many, it’s challenging to engage with this quality of presence. Take […]

Yin Yoga & the Art of Aging

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I’m sitting in my grandmother’s apartment at the Presbyterian retirement community. Sweat is runs down my face and pools in my armpits. The thermostat reads a brutal 89 degrees and my grandmother is wearing a wool cardigan. There’s no turning it down or else she might pull out the fur coat and gloves. It wouldn’t […]

Connecting with Our ‘Soul Sadness’

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Marge, a woman in our meditation community, was in a painful standoff with her teenage son. At fifteen, Micky was in a downward spiral of skipping classes and using drugs, and had just been suspended for smoking marijuana on school grounds. While Marge blamed herself — she was the parent, after all — she was […]

Soul-Talk: Are You Suffering Unnecessarily?

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Suffering seems to be evermore commonplace these days — we see it in those impacted by the economy, in the virtually-daily tally of tragedy, and in everyday personal and interpersonal upset. The sad thing about suffering is that those of us who do suffer, and I have certainly done my share, seem to be the […]

Tone Down the Negative, Enhance the Positive

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Painful experiences range from subtle discomfort to extreme anguish — and there is a place for them. Sorrow can open the heart, anger can highlight injustices, fear can alert you to real threats, and remorse can help you take the high road next time. But is there really any shortage of suffering in this world? […]

Getting Rid of Resentment

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Ann Lamott, in her novel Crooked Little Heart, says that holding onto resentment is like eating rat poison and waiting for the rat to die. Resentment is seductive. We assume on some level that it’s going to help us, but it doesn’t. It just causes us pain. This is something that just about all of […]

Free To Be Me: Awareness, Acceptance and Action

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Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. —Buddhist saying I am a psychotherapist. I have the sacred privilege of witnessing the process of growth and transformation in my clients. It is holy work as I watch my clients move beyond limiting beliefs and learn to live more masterfully. My hope for them is that they become […]

Letting Go Of Everything

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Can you imagine, letting go of everything in your life? Monks do this when they become Monks, they let go of everything including their Family. The thought of this is almost mind boggling to me. And imagine right now as you read this, letting go of all physical possessions and all relationships you have in […]