Domestic Violence is Everywhere

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Last night I was behind a woman in line at the grocery store who was buying infant formula and a multi-pack of pregnancy tests. At first, I thought, “Wow, she has a lot going on.” Almost immediately after that, my mind went to domestic violence and reproductive coercion – in which batterers keep their partners […]

Sex and Consent

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What a position it must have been for my father, or for any father, who finally decides it’s time to stretch those parenting muscles and have “the talk” with his daughters. For me and my sisters, “the talk” was supported by a book about the birds and the bees that outlined everything in perfect clinical […]

Celebrate Your Strength – Stand Up! Join HAVEN for Take Back the Night

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“We stand together and we stand strong, fighting for an end to sexual violence.” Take Back the Night will be held at Oakland University on Tuesday, April 17. The event will be open to the community from 5:00 — 9:00 p.m., with a concert following the event. Take Back the Night will include a motivational […]

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month – Speaking Out Against Rape And Sexual Assault.

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The classmate who raped my college roommate 30 years ago was never held accountable for his behavior. The business man who molested a relative of mine decades ago was never held accountable for the crime he committed. The professional who sexually assaulted a friend of mine 10 years ago never served even a moment in […]

Response to Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped

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Recently an article was published on EBONY titled Stop telling Women How to Not Get Raped. The piece goes on to detail the need for anti-rape campaigns that are targeted toward men. The reason being that men are the majority of the ones committing these crimes and that it is inherently victim-blaming (and ineffective) to […]

The Power of Numbers

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In December, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) released a 124-page report outlining the prevalence of domestic violence and sexual assault in the United States as measured by phone surveys to over 16,000 households. For those of us who work at HAVEN, the report was not as noteworthy for its content as it was for […]

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

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One in two Americans live in fear.  Fear of being beaten, raped and/or abused.  Consciously or unconsciously, the fear permeates all facets of life — home, work, recreation, school, even shopping. So who is experiencing this fear? Women and girls, from the very young to the elderly.  For many years the burden of this fear fell […]

Real Men. Real Allies.

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Before 2005, I was oblivious to issues of domestic violence and sexual assault. I associated such issues with women, and placed the responsibility of addressing them into their hands. I thought I had no role and was in no way responsible for what countless women experience every day all over the world. After accepting invitations […]

An Open Letter To Thomas Warda – Protecting Young Victims of Sexual Abuse!

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Dear Thomas Warda, She’ll eventually forget all about it, like it never even happened. That is what you suggested at the sentencing hearing of your client Mickey Gotwalt, a 52-year old high school softball coach in Tuscola County who was recently convicted of criminal sexual conduct with one of the young girls he coached. According […]

Your “To-Do” List When Going Back To School

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This weekend, while shopping for some household items, I ended up in the midst of some serious back to school shopping, moms and daughters/sons getting ready for college dorm life. Listening in on their conversations about whether or not they needed a toaster, what color rug goes with the lamp, the size of fan, reminded […]