Can An Abuser Change?

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Domestic violence is unpredictable. After an incident of abuse, some abusers may act remorseful and promise to “change” in an effort to maintain the relationship (read: secure more control). The question is: Can an abuser break this cycle and genuinely change? An abuser has the potential to change if he* first acknowledges that: What he […]

Can You Pass This Pop Quiz?

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What causes rape? A. Being flirtatious B. Wearing a short skirt C. Drinking too much D. RAPISTS As the leader of an organization that provides education and treatment for rape I think it’s important to remind everyone whom the guilty party is when it comes to this horrific crime. Time and time again, individuals, including […]

If I were President of the United States……West Wing Fantasy World

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I’m exhausted by this election and I’m sure that you are as well. I rarely wish for time to fly but I know that I, and thousands of others, can’t wait for November 6 to come and go. At the same time, I still cling to the fact that I live in a country where […]

Celebrate Every Woman’s Strength! Expectations of Sexual Availability

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Women are expected to be sexually available to men. Yep, you heard it right. Women are expected to be ready and waiting for men to express interest and when they do they’re supposed to reciprocate it. It’s not always obvious or overtly expressed, but when you look a little closer the assumption is loud and […]

Response to Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped

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Recently an article was published on EBONY titled Stop telling Women How to Not Get Raped. The piece goes on to detail the need for anti-rape campaigns that are targeted toward men. The reason being that men are the majority of the ones committing these crimes and that it is inherently victim-blaming (and ineffective) to […]

Is Sexual Harassment Really Harmless?

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Recently, a case coming out of Oakland University has grabbed the attention of the local and national press (editors note: and another post right here on HAVEN’s blog). Joseph Corlett, a 56-year old OU student has been removed from campus for three semesters for using a writing assignment in an English class as a chance […]

Yoga and Sex Scandals: No Surprise Here

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The wholesome image of yoga took a hit in the past few weeks as a rising star of the discipline came tumbling back to earth. After accusations of sexual impropriety with female students, John Friend, the founder of Anusara, one of the world’s fastest-growing styles, told followers that he was stepping down for an indefinite […]

Real Men. Real Allies.

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Before 2005, I was oblivious to issues of domestic violence and sexual assault. I associated such issues with women, and placed the responsibility of addressing them into their hands. I thought I had no role and was in no way responsible for what countless women experience every day all over the world. After accepting invitations […]

An Open Letter To Thomas Warda – Protecting Young Victims of Sexual Abuse!

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Dear Thomas Warda, She’ll eventually forget all about it, like it never even happened. That is what you suggested at the sentencing hearing of your client Mickey Gotwalt, a 52-year old high school softball coach in Tuscola County who was recently convicted of criminal sexual conduct with one of the young girls he coached. According […]

Independence Day And What It Means For Different People

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Independence Day — BBQ’s, vacations, beach, fireworks, sleeping in, friends and family. That is what July 4th conjures up for most of us. But of course, Independence Day means much more than that, it is the day that many Americans pay homage to our country’s founders and our start as a free and independent nation. […]