Ducking Grief

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Next month will mark six years that my best friend’s daughter Miya died. Yet, she is very much alive in the hearts and minds of those who knew and loved her. Loving Miya was the only option; she wouldn’t have it any other way and this is exactly what we loved so much about her. […]

Connecting with Our ‘Soul Sadness’

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Marge, a woman in our meditation community, was in a painful standoff with her teenage son. At fifteen, Micky was in a downward spiral of skipping classes and using drugs, and had just been suspended for smoking marijuana on school grounds. While Marge blamed herself — she was the parent, after all — she was […]

Healing Our Heart Chakra: Feeling Rejected, Abandoned, Unloved, Unimportant?

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Have you ever been stood up, left hanging, left waiting and wondering? No call, no apology, no explanation or accountability – nothing at all. What kind of person stands on top of another, and why? How does this painfully selfish and self-centered behavior make you feel? How does one reconcile feelings of intense disappointment and […]

Celebrate Your Strength – Learning to Love the Flaws

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As I wrote in my most recent book, Living as a River: Relating to someone as a “self”–on the basis of how we see them right now–is like seeing a video reduced to a single frame, or seeing a ball hurtling through the air in a freeze-frame photograph. It’s life-denying. It’s a static way of […]

Getting Rid of Resentment

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Ann Lamott, in her novel Crooked Little Heart, says that holding onto resentment is like eating rat poison and waiting for the rat to die. Resentment is seductive. We assume on some level that it’s going to help us, but it doesn’t. It just causes us pain. This is something that just about all of […]

Why Women Cry (And Should)!

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On a recent flight from New York to Los Angeles, I had a sudden urge to cry. I’d just said good-bye to my goddaughter after a wonderful weekend visit, and being with her reminded me of just how badly I wanted to be somebody’s mom and how that wasn’t working out so well. At first […]

What is Wrong, Sweetheart?

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“There is no greater agony than the untold story inside of you.” —Maya Angelou A day at temple for the Jewish New Year… beautiful service and prayers. Hugging temple members and friends. Feeling God in the prayers, the rabbi’s words, the cantor’s melodic voice, the songs, the holy connection to all the world there in […]

What Does It Mean To Be STOOD UP?

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Have you ever been stood up, left hanging, left waiting and wondering? No call, no apology, no explanation or accountability – nothing at all. What kind of person stands on top of another, and why? How does this seemingly selfish and self-centered behavior make you feel? How do you reconcile your feelings of intense disappointment […]

Dealing with Winter Depression

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Seasonal Affective Disorder: A Debilitating Depression With the winter months come colder weather, shorter days and sometimes depressing thoughts. When it seems like there is so little time in the day, yet still so much to do and worse weather to do it in, it’s hard not to let environmental factors get you down. Yet […]