Soul-Talk: Are You Suffering Unnecessarily?

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Suffering seems to be evermore commonplace these days — we see it in those impacted by the economy, in the virtually-daily tally of tragedy, and in everyday personal and interpersonal upset. The sad thing about suffering is that those of us who do suffer, and I have certainly done my share, seem to be the […]

Tone Down the Negative, Enhance the Positive

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Painful experiences range from subtle discomfort to extreme anguish — and there is a place for them. Sorrow can open the heart, anger can highlight injustices, fear can alert you to real threats, and remorse can help you take the high road next time. But is there really any shortage of suffering in this world? […]

Celebrate Your Strength: Self Compassion and Love

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“Your job is not to seek for love, but to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” -Rumi Have you ever noticed how easy it is to be hard on yourself? The inner child buried deep inside of us stores words of criticism from parents, teachers and peers. […]

Looking Ahead With Lauren: The Eyes Of A Child

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It is almost St. Patrick’s Day which leads me to a funny story. When I was a little kid, for some reason I was scared of Leprechauns. I remember in Elementary School one year the teacher told us that Leprechauns would come and decorate our classroom. I’m sure she didn’t make them out to be […]

Looking Ahead With Lauren: The Love/Hate Relationship We Have With Ourselves

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We all have a list constantly running through our heads of things we dislike about ourselves. We may even think about the things we love, but probably not as often. First I’ll start with a list of things I would like to change about myself or grow to love. I don’t want to think about […]

Shine Your Light

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. -Rumi What I hear women saying: If only I were prettier. I wish I were smarter. If only “they” liked me. No one wants me. I am fat. I goofed […]

50 Life Secrets and Tips

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#1 Memorize something everyday. Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options. #2 Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions. Those who are heavy-set with material desires […]

Imperfect Is the New Perfect

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The Nightmares of a Perfectionist Perfectionism is a futile endeavor. As a perfectionist, I speak from experience. And this essay is my confessionary hymn. At times my perfectionism haunts me: all the pleasure of “getting it right” can be immediately wiped out by small, debilitating imperfections: the sharp, stabbing pain of a negative criticism; the […]

Are You Allergic to Saying No?

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Do you say yes whenever anyone asks for your help? Do you allow people or events to pull you away from what you planned to do? Would you rather please others than have a confrontation with them? Then you just might be allergic to saying no. We all want to be helpful and giving. So […]

Take Back Your Summer: Accepting The Body You Have Now

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It’s normal to fantasize about a “better” version of yourself. As more heroic, smarter, powerful, successful, generous, kinder than you are. (Or more cutthroat or vengeful than you are.) These fantasies can serve as ideals of who we want to become — and thus can be blueprints, showing us how to get from how we […]