Listening to Complainers Is Bad for Your Brain

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Exposure to nonstop negativity actually impairs brain function. Here’s how to defend yourself. Do you hate it when people complain? It turns out there’s a good reason: Listening to too much complaining is bad for your brain in multiple ways, according to Trevor Blake, a serial entrepreneur and author of Three Simple Steps: A Map […]

Healing The World: Transforming Negativity To Love

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“It is possible that the next Buddha will not take the form of an individual. The next Buddha may take the form of a community – a community practicing understanding and loving kindness, a community practicing mindful living. This may be the most important thing we can do for the survival of the earth.” – […]

Soul-Talk: Are You Suffering Unnecessarily?

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Suffering seems to be evermore commonplace these days — we see it in those impacted by the economy, in the virtually-daily tally of tragedy, and in everyday personal and interpersonal upset. The sad thing about suffering is that those of us who do suffer, and I have certainly done my share, seem to be the […]

Tone Down the Negative, Enhance the Positive

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Painful experiences range from subtle discomfort to extreme anguish — and there is a place for them. Sorrow can open the heart, anger can highlight injustices, fear can alert you to real threats, and remorse can help you take the high road next time. But is there really any shortage of suffering in this world? […]

Looking Ahead With Lauren: The Love/Hate Relationship We Have With Ourselves

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We all have a list constantly running through our heads of things we dislike about ourselves. We may even think about the things we love, but probably not as often. First I’ll start with a list of things I would like to change about myself or grow to love. I don’t want to think about […]

Imperfect Is the New Perfect

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The Nightmares of a Perfectionist Perfectionism is a futile endeavor. As a perfectionist, I speak from experience. And this essay is my confessionary hymn. At times my perfectionism haunts me: all the pleasure of “getting it right” can be immediately wiped out by small, debilitating imperfections: the sharp, stabbing pain of a negative criticism; the […]