How Being Present May Have Saved My Marriage


Walking under trees. Summer’s faded into fall. My marriage is broken. I seek solace under wind rustled leaves of red and yellow dappled browns. Scratch of black branches seems to whisper a message, “quietly, quietly.” I don’t understand. I look longingly to the trees wishing for answers, wishing those branches were arms that could hug […]

Your Best Year EVER


Every New Year resolutions are made — most of which are short lived — new declarations announced, and goals set. This year I decided to go big. I am committed to making 2013 the best year of my life, because… well, why not? I am 39, turning 40 in November, and I can’t come up […]

Dear Husband…


My Sweet Husband, I have learned so much about you and I this past year and especially in these last several weeks since I fell and hurt myself badly. That fall was actually 8 weeks ago today. Let me back up though to almost a quarter of a century ago. Twenty-four years ago, this month, […]

Faith Hill’s Lessons for a Beautiful Life


It’s easy to keep the Faith with you. Why? Faith Hill is one of those stars whose words linger. She’s not just a country superstar with over 30 million CDs sold, but also a self-proclaimed Mississippi girl, wife of crooner Tim McGraw, mother, and expert juggler. She’s also someone who isn’t lamenting another candle on […]

10 Ways To Create A Strong, Intimate Relationship


“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -Sam Keen Before I married my wonderful husband, I dated a lot of men. For most of my 20s (and even my early 30s) I had a perfect fairy-ideal of what romantic love was, probably because […]

Falling In And Out Of Friendship – Book Review On “House Arrest” By Ellen Meeropol


Have you ever had a friendship that became important but never would have happened if you had said what you were thinking the first time you met the person? We first meet one of the central characters in Ellen Meeropol’s new novel, House Arrest, in just that situation. Emily, a 30-something woman who has always […]

Book Review On “Sing You Home” By Jodi Picoult


Zoe Baxter has spent ten years trying to get pregnant, and after multiple miscarriages and infertility issues, it looks like her dream is about to come true — she is seven months pregnant. But a terrible turn of events leads to a nightmare — one that takes away the baby she has already fallen for; […]

Letting Go With Love


We are in a transition in our family that has inspired this months theme, Letting Go With Love. Our oldest child, Angelo, who is 20 and been away at college in Seattle for the past two years, has decided to stay in Seattle and work this summer. We celebrate his move toward independence and at […]

A Weekly Thought From Ruthanne


Pathways to Radiant Loving Often in our work, when couples are stuck in a conflict, each not willing to let go of their point of view, we ask a simple question. Would you rather be right or loved? It is a question that always gets their attention. Whenever we hold on righteously, so sure of […]

A Weekly Thought


It is so easy to notice what is wrong with those we love. So today, how might you bring your attention to appreciation? In the mindful practice of appreciation we give those we love a great gift. With every expressed appreciation, they are bathed in our positive energy. That positivity then flows back to us. […]