Can An Abuser Change?

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Domestic violence is unpredictable. After an incident of abuse, some abusers may act remorseful and promise to “change” in an effort to maintain the relationship (read: secure more control). The question is: Can an abuser break this cycle and genuinely change? An abuser has the potential to change if he* first acknowledges that: What he […]

Turn Gratitude to Giving

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Although the Thanksgiving feast has past, we remain deeply seated in the season of gratitude and giving. Open your hearts to this wonderful article from Beth Morrison, CEO of Haven, and please consider “giving” to the many wonderful souls in our community who struggle daily to have their most basic needs met.  Never underestimate the […]

As Our Garden Grows…Please Help Support The Haven Garden Project

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“A garden is an idea, a space, an action. For some residents, the buzz of honey bees is a restful liturgy, for others, a busying activity for their talented, energetic children. Our garden is a culmination of the efforts and support of many people, and many hands. Please join us in helping the garden bear […]

Celebrating Michigan’s New Felony Strangulation Law

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It’s true. All of us working in advocacy land are genuinely thrilled about this new law that went into effect April 1, 2013. Of course it seems odd to be so excited about something so cryptic, but hear me out. This is a giant victory for batterer accountability and enhanced protection for survivors of abuse. […]

Can You Pass This Pop Quiz?

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What causes rape? A. Being flirtatious B. Wearing a short skirt C. Drinking too much D. RAPISTS As the leader of an organization that provides education and treatment for rape I think it’s important to remind everyone whom the guilty party is when it comes to this horrific crime. Time and time again, individuals, including […]

Love is Not Abuse

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As parents, we have an inherent need to protect our children and keep them safe. We teach them to trust their instincts and empower them to say “no” when something doesn’t feel right. Maintaining a healthy, communicative relationship where our children feel trusted and supported will help them grow up to be assertive, self-aware individuals, […]

One Billion Rising – February 14, 2013

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To a Group of Wonderful, Amazing and Fun Women, Please join me and a whole lot of other Amazing Women (and a few terrific men) on February 14th for lunch and dancing in the parking lot of HAVEN’s Counseling Program. Yes – dancing in a parking lot in the middle of winter! Join HAVEN as […]

My Resolutions for the New Year

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I don’t typically come up with New Year’s Resolutions but yesterday as I undecorated our Christmas team, I had a dose of nostalgia followed by a wave of excitement for 2013. So what the heck, I’m throwing caution to the wind and here is my list of resolutions for 2013! 1. To talk more about […]

If I were President of the United States……West Wing Fantasy World

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I’m exhausted by this election and I’m sure that you are as well. I rarely wish for time to fly but I know that I, and thousands of others, can’t wait for November 6 to come and go. At the same time, I still cling to the fact that I live in a country where […]

Time to Love Our Bodies

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It is true confession time. When I was in high school I wanted to be selected as Homecoming Queen. It was a secret wish of mine – and no doubt many. Throughout my middle and high school years I struggled with body image, always feeling unattractive and overweight. I was probably popular enough to be […]