Zen Habits: The Way to Be

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“The only reason we don’t open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don’t feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else’s eyes. ” […]

Domestic Violence is Everywhere

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Last night I was behind a woman in line at the grocery store who was buying infant formula and a multi-pack of pregnancy tests. At first, I thought, “Wow, she has a lot going on.” Almost immediately after that, my mind went to domestic violence and reproductive coercion – in which batterers keep their partners […]

The Wisdom of Allowing Things to Happen

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The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come. She steps out of the way and lets the Tao speak for itself. ~The Daodejing This has been what I’ve been learning over the past couple of years. Allowing things to happen. It goes counter to our usual instincts in Western society – […]

7 Ways to Claim Your Power

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. It is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that we are most afraid of. -Marianne Williamson “Power” is one of those words that can have a weird connotation. Many think of it as being aggressive or inflexible. As a […]

Let’s Be Kind To One Another

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Recently I had someone tell me that their boyfriend sometimes made them feel like the ugliest person in the world. Keep in mind this person was a beautiful, almost 50-year-old woman who looked much younger. That pretty much broke my heart. I told her that no one should ever make her feel that way and […]

The Magic of Love and Acceptance

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If you allow someone to be who they are and they allow you to be who you are, then that’s Love ♥. Anything else is torture. ~ Ra Uru Hu As a therapist I often hear, “If only he or she would do this or that, I would be so much happier.” No matter how […]

Take Back Your Summer: Accepting The Body You Have Now

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It’s normal to fantasize about a “better” version of yourself. As more heroic, smarter, powerful, successful, generous, kinder than you are. (Or more cutthroat or vengeful than you are.) These fantasies can serve as ideals of who we want to become — and thus can be blueprints, showing us how to get from how we […]