Can An Abuser Change?

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Domestic violence is unpredictable. After an incident of abuse, some abusers may act remorseful and promise to “change” in an effort to maintain the relationship (read: secure more control). The question is: Can an abuser break this cycle and genuinely change? An abuser has the potential to change if he* first acknowledges that: What he […]

As Our Garden Grows…Please Help Support The Haven Garden Project

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“A garden is an idea, a space, an action. For some residents, the buzz of honey bees is a restful liturgy, for others, a busying activity for their talented, energetic children. Our garden is a culmination of the efforts and support of many people, and many hands. Please join us in helping the garden bear […]

Love is Not Abuse

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As parents, we have an inherent need to protect our children and keep them safe. We teach them to trust their instincts and empower them to say “no” when something doesn’t feel right. Maintaining a healthy, communicative relationship where our children feel trusted and supported will help them grow up to be assertive, self-aware individuals, […]

My Challenge to the Media

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I am predicting that in addition to the Olympics, the story of the summer will be the trial of Jerry Sandusky. The trial began in early June and is sure to keep the media talking for months to come. From the daily rehashing of testimony, the hours waiting for a verdict, and on to post […]

The Power of Numbers

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In December, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) released a 124-page report outlining the prevalence of domestic violence and sexual assault in the United States as measured by phone surveys to over 16,000 households. For those of us who work at HAVEN, the report was not as noteworthy for its content as it was for […]

Penn State Missed a Teachable Moment

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By Beth Morrison HAVEN CEO Imagine this scene in the Penn State Football locker room: Coach Paterno walks in and gives his players the horrific news, that one of their own was caught raping a young boy. He talks about how proud he is of his young graduate assistant coming forward with what he had […]

Take Action to Prevent Domestic Violence

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Many believe that domestic violence is a private matter that happens behind closed doors. This belief, I’m sure, was shattered in Seal Beach, California after 8 people were killed and one critically injured as news reports indicate the shooter was the ex-husband of one of the victim. Domestic violence impacts us all, in one way or […]

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

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One in two Americans live in fear.  Fear of being beaten, raped and/or abused.  Consciously or unconsciously, the fear permeates all facets of life — home, work, recreation, school, even shopping. So who is experiencing this fear? Women and girls, from the very young to the elderly.  For many years the burden of this fear fell […]

An Open Letter To Thomas Warda – Protecting Young Victims of Sexual Abuse!

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Dear Thomas Warda, She’ll eventually forget all about it, like it never even happened. That is what you suggested at the sentencing hearing of your client Mickey Gotwalt, a 52-year old high school softball coach in Tuscola County who was recently convicted of criminal sexual conduct with one of the young girls he coached. According […]

Why Is Twitter Promoting Violence Against Women?!

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Yesterday on Twitter a disturbing trending topic popped up. Trending topics show on the right side of Twitter, on every page, and are the most tweeted about topics that day. They’re usually a hashtag of some kind, and can link together people that want to discuss the same topic, like a recently release album or […]