My Challenge to the Media

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I am predicting that in addition to the Olympics, the story of the summer will be the trial of Jerry Sandusky. The trial began in early June and is sure to keep the media talking for months to come. From the daily rehashing of testimony, the hours waiting for a verdict, and on to post […]

Sex and Consent

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What a position it must have been for my father, or for any father, who finally decides it’s time to stretch those parenting muscles and have “the talk” with his daughters. For me and my sisters, “the talk” was supported by a book about the birds and the bees that outlined everything in perfect clinical […]

Celebrate Every Woman’s Strength! Expectations of Sexual Availability

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Women are expected to be sexually available to men. Yep, you heard it right. Women are expected to be ready and waiting for men to express interest and when they do they’re supposed to reciprocate it. It’s not always obvious or overtly expressed, but when you look a little closer the assumption is loud and […]

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month – Speaking Out Against Rape And Sexual Assault.

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The classmate who raped my college roommate 30 years ago was never held accountable for his behavior. The business man who molested a relative of mine decades ago was never held accountable for the crime he committed. The professional who sexually assaulted a friend of mine 10 years ago never served even a moment in […]

Response to Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped

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Recently an article was published on EBONY titled Stop telling Women How to Not Get Raped. The piece goes on to detail the need for anti-rape campaigns that are targeted toward men. The reason being that men are the majority of the ones committing these crimes and that it is inherently victim-blaming (and ineffective) to […]

Help The Shanti Uganda Society

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Welcome to Shanti Uganda Our Mission: The Shanti Uganda Society improves infant and maternal health, provides safe women-centered care and supports the well-being of birthing mothers and women living with HIV/AIDS in Uganda. Blog for International Women’s Day Join Shanti Uganda in blogging for International Women’s Day on March 8th! This years theme is “Connecting […]

Is Sexual Harassment Really Harmless?

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Recently, a case coming out of Oakland University has grabbed the attention of the local and national press (editors note: and another post right here on HAVEN’s blog). Joseph Corlett, a 56-year old OU student has been removed from campus for three semesters for using a writing assignment in an English class as a chance […]

Break the Rules of Gender Stereotypes

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Much has been said of late about gender stereotyping, especially with the launch of Lego’s new line of products aimed at the girl market, Lego Friends.  I am one who doesn’t get it. Why do we need pink Legos? Why do we need preformed beauty shops and pink ovens for baking cupcakes? Can’t a child, […]

The Anti-Valentine’s Day

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Do you remember in the movie “Valentine’s Day” when Jessica Biel’s character holds her annual “Anti-Valentine’s Day Party”? It was an interesting take in a movie celebrating “Valentine’s Day” to have all the different point of views on the day. Some people with lover’s eyes adore this day, taking in all the chocolate and roses […]

The Commodification of Love

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There’s another holiday lurking somewhere around the corner. Valentine’s Day. Mother’s Day. Sweetest Day. Birthdays. Christmas. We’ve programed ourselves to give and receive gifts on these and many other holidays to show our love for one another. We’ve even been told that gift-giving is one of our “love languages.” This idea is utterly ridiculous, and […]