10 Quotes To Give Your Life Meaning, Clarity & A Dose Of Magic

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During childhood, my mom took me to the library or bookstore every single week. As I read, I always saw symbolism and deeper meaning in the text, even in childish fairytales. I always pretended words were actually magic fairy dust being sprinkled to add love, laughter, wisdom, fun or purpose to my life. Even as […]

The Rats in the Tunnel

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There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Intuitively, we all know this. Even when it’s hard to find, we know it’s there somewhere–somewhere just beyond the bend, somewhere within reach. Finding the light isn’t the hardest part of life’s journey. It’s dealing with what’s hiding in the tunnel that’s incredibly difficult. What […]

60 Life Lessons: Insights from Oprah’s Life Class

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Call me a traitor to my gender, but I didn’t grow up watching Oprah. I didn’t have parties with other ladies that involved a television and tissues. I didn’t fill my library according to her book club recommendations. And I didn’t live my life around the question, “What would Oprah do?” Considering my penchant for […]

Hope: The #1 Reason to Give

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All her life, Vanessa has had issues with her knees. But, it never stopped her from being active, until one day her left knee swelled up like a balloon and Vanessa could barely walk. The swelling dissipated within a week and with no other symptoms, she didn’t worry that it was something more serious like […]

Giving Thanks…and Gratitude

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Gratitude is a word frequently used and heard at HAVEN.  A friend of mine has started posting a daily moment of gratitude on her Facebook page, pointing out that gratitude comes in both small and large forms.  So I jump into the gratitude movement with the start of my own list: I am grateful for […]

Free To Be Me: Awareness, Acceptance and Action

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Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. —Buddhist saying I am a psychotherapist. I have the sacred privilege of witnessing the process of growth and transformation in my clients. It is holy work as I watch my clients move beyond limiting beliefs and learn to live more masterfully. My hope for them is that they become […]

30 More Life Lessons From 30 Years

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Yesterday (October 23rd) was my 30th birthday. The big three-oh. To celebrate, here’s another 30 life lessons to accompany Joshua’s 30 Life Lessons and Leo Babauta’s 38 Life Lessons I’ve Learned in 38 Years from earlier this year. Oh, and please, whatever you do, don’t get me any birthday gifts. 1. It’s not about how […]

Take Action to Prevent Domestic Violence

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Many believe that domestic violence is a private matter that happens behind closed doors. This belief, I’m sure, was shattered in Seal Beach, California after 8 people were killed and one critically injured as news reports indicate the shooter was the ex-husband of one of the victim. Domestic violence impacts us all, in one way or […]

How To Deal With Criticism Well: 25 Reasons To Embrace It

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“Criticism is something you can easily avoid by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” ~Aristotle At the end of the day, when I feel completely exhausted, oftentimes it has nothing to do with all the things I’ve done. It’s not a consequence of juggling multiple responsibilities and projects. It’s not my body’s way of […]

11 Simple Ways To Supercharge Your Time In The Now

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“To be alive is to totally and openly participate in the simplicity and elegance of here and now.” ~Donald Altman Five years ago, my life was a mess compared to now. I was anxious, worried, afraid, and running away from my feelings–I was running away from the present moment. So, what happened? I started applying […]