“Power” is one of those words that can have a weird connotation. Many think of it as being aggressive or inflexible. As a therapist who helps women to claim their power I see “power” as strength, courage and resourcefulness. I see a powerful person not as someone who takes advantage of others but someone who connects with the highest vision of themselves and lives a life of authenticity and grace.
I have compiled a list of ways to guide you as you claim your power.
1. Know who you are and what you stand for.
Take time to discover your own special qualities and the things that make you unique. Just as every flower in the garden brings its own special beauty to the garden, so do you bring something to the world that would not be there if you had not been born.
2. Accept yourself with all your perfect imperfections.
Self-acceptance is a vital ingredient in your joy of life. And once you accept yourself with all your flaws and your shortcomings, it is easier to have compassion for your human journey and recognize when something is not working for you. Then you are free to make important changes in yourself and your life.
3. Take an inventory of what energizes you and what drains you.
Find ways to eliminate the drains in your life as much as you can and put add things that energize you into your schedule daily. This can apply to people, foods, rituals and activities. You will find yourself feeling much more balanced and alive.
4. Do not let fear hold you hostage.
If you pay attention to when your inner critic (or Gremlin as I like to call it) is in charge you can take a moment to connect with your wise adult self and take healthy risks.
5. Realize what you can control and what you cannot control.
I know there are a lot of things I cannot control in life so I refuse to get upset about the weather, the stock market or the price of gas. I have to admit that it was a real eye-opener to me when I realized that I could not control other people and a defining moment when I realized that all I really could control were my thoughts, decisions and behaviors .
6. Do not tolerate toxic relationships.
This can be anything from someone who does not bring out the best in you to someone who sucks the life out of you. When people decide to omit toxic people from their lives they may be ridiculed for not being a good person or friend. You deserve to give yourself the best possible environment to thrive in. This is not selfish, it is self preservation.
7. Learn to forgive.
Forgiveness is not about condoning the other person’s behavior. It is about freeing yourself from the bondage of hatred. You forgive because the resentment that you are holding is like a poison inside of you. You forgive because it hurts you to hold onto it. You forgive because you make a decision to heal your heart and soul. You forgive because of the freedom it will bring you.
The bottom line is that you have everything you need inside of you to be a creator of your own life and live a life of authenticity, courage and grace.
Brenda Strausz is a holistic psychotherapist with a practice in the Metro Detroit area. She uses conventional and alternative therapies (Emotional Freedom Techniques, Guided Imagery and Mindfulness) to help you life your best life. She can be contacted through her website: www.BrendaStrausz.com or you can connect with her on Facebook Open to Joy.