Have you ever noticed how easy it is to be hard on yourself? The inner child buried deep inside of us stores words of criticism from parents, teachers and peers. And these words seem to pop up at unexpected moments.
When I ask clients to close their eyes and to connect with their beautiful essence, the light inside of them, I notice a gentle letting go, a soft peace as they connect with what is real and good and strong in themselves.
When we learn that we are only humans doing this sometimes difficult journey and that we are born of light, we make a decision to give ourselves light. We learn how to give ourselves a break, to connect with that little scared child who needs love and understanding.
We begin to see that although that we all have faults and flaws and these are just a small part of us, and we learn the importance of greeting them tenderly as we embrace our humanness. We give ourselves spaciousness and support.
We begin to find that place within us that feels warm like the sun, fresh like a spring wind, comfortable like a blanket.
And we feel alive and tender as we bask in this warm, fresh comfort.
In allowing ourselves to be human, we awaken to the humanness and frailty of all human beings.
And the miracle happens. As we give this love and compassion to ourselves and connect with our own beauty and goodness we are much more able to give love to others. We become increasingly attuned to the beauty and goodness of our fellow humans.
The light in us connects us to the light in every other human being. So really we are all one vast loving universal heart. And when we open to the oneness of all we realize it is vital we care for ourselves and each other. And if we are all one, how could we possibly be mean to ourselves or hurt another?
7 Steps to Self-Compassion and Love:
1. Take up yoga or meditation.
2. Focus on your strengths.
3. Look for the light in others.
4. Notice everyday blessings.
5. Take time everyday to check inside.
6. Allow yourself to be imperfect.
7. Allow others to be imperfect.
8. Know in your heart that Love is always the answer.
Brenda Strausz is a holistic psychotherapist and coach with a practice in Southfield, MI. Her mission is to help people to heal the past, love the present and empower their future. She can be reached through her website at www.brendastrausz.com or her Facebook page Open to Joy.