I will start off with one of my favorite quotes of all time from the show “Everwood”. Does anyone remember that show? I used to be obsessed with it! It is a bit long, but great to think about…
“The more things change, the more they stay the same. I’m not sure who the first person was who said that. Probably Shakespeare. Or maybe Sting. But at the moment, it’s the sentence that best explains my tragic flaw, my inability to change. I don’t think I’m alone in this. The more I get to know other people, the more I realize it’s kind of everyone’s flaw. Staying exactly the same for as long as possible, standing perfectly still… It feels safer somehow. And if you are suffering, at least the pain is familiar. Because if you took that leap of faith, went outside the box, did something unexpected… Who knows what other pain might be out there, waiting for you. Chances are it could be even worse. So you maintain the status quo. Choose the road already traveled and it doesn’t seem that bad. Not as far as flaws go. You’re not a drug addict. You’re not killing anyone… Except maybe yourself a little. When we finally do change, I don’t think it happens like an earthquake or an explosion, where all of a sudden we’re like this different person. I think it’s smaller than that. The kind of thing most people wouldn’t even notice unless they looked at us really close. Which, thank God, they never do. But you notice it. Inside you that change feels like a world of difference. And you hope this is it. This is the person you get to be forever… that you’ll never have to change again.” ~Everwood
I think we all feel this way at times. We have this innate inability to change ourselves. I’m always thinking of things I would like to change but rarely ever act on these impulses or thoughts. At times, it is good that I don’t act on my impulse because it may change my life in a negative way. Yet other times, I think about doing something for years and years and never actually act on it. Most of the time it is something that could never turn out that bad, such as trying skiing or giving up sugar for a while.
Recently, I read an article in Fitness Magazine that the #1 secret to happiness is change!
Tools for Change:
Make yourself accountable. I think social media is a great way to inhabit change. All you have to do is send it to the virtual world what your specific goal is. Ask your friends to encourage you and bust your chops if you wimp out! Update your Facebook or Twitter with your progress and ask for advice and encouragement. You could also just enlist in a friend or two to make sure you stay on track with your goal for change.
Don’t change too much, too soon. Pick one change at a time. It will be too overwhelming if you decide to move to a new city, get a new job in a new field and lose 50 pounds! You will easily burn out, get too stressed and you won’t change!
Don’t give up too easily. Some change you’ll realize wasn’t what you wanted after all. Yet some change is just difficult and you have to stick with it to get happy results. Whatever change you decide to make, give it at least a month and then re-assess. For example, I used to work out for a week, then get lazy and stop. This year, I started making myself work out a few days each week. Now I’m getting to the point where I feel bad when I take a day off from exercise and can’t wait to work out the next day. Some things just take a while to stick and become habit.
Things I’d Like To Change:
My diet. I’d like to eventually get to a very healthy diet (Geez, as I am sitting here writing and eating chocolate truffles from Valentine’s Day!). I need to decide on great basis: how many vegetables, fruits, proteins, etc. per day and limit my sugar and fat intake. I don’t want to do this to lose weight by any means but I just want to be more mindful of my health, what I put in my body as fuel and how different foods make me feel.
My fitness lifestyle. This year I have definitely been more motivated to exercise and I am growing to love working out. Working here at ASKinyourface.com has been a great inspiration to live a healthier and happier lifestyle. I am even thinking about perhaps growing more towards fitness to some type of career choice, but I haven’t figured out anything yet. I am just beginning and hope to continue, try different workouts and become a fitness warrior!
Of course there will always be more things I’d like to change and grow, but those are just examples that are on my mind a lot lately. Please share with me what you’d like to change, how you plan to change, why you haven’t changed yet, etc!
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