“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.”â€¨~Barbara DeAngelis
The Sarasota restaurant was bustling with life. Women in breezy summer dresses and men in Hawaiian shirts filled the sunny room. The aroma of spicy herbs tantalized our senses. Our morning at the beach had made us hungry for lunch. Soon enough, an elderly red headed waitress came to the table. Looking worn and weary, she stood there with her order pad glaring at us.
The contrast of the beautiful breezy day and the grumpy waitress left us feeling unsettled. We had come to relax…not to feel that we were an annoyance. We thought for a moment about calling her out on her rudeness. But my husband had another plan.
Soon enough she came back with our black bean soup in hand, looking even more miserable. “You really hustle here,” my husband said kindly. “This wonderful restaurant is always so busy. How long have you been working here?” A smile flickered across her face as she told the story of how she moved from the Midwest and got a job right away at this restaurant. Her face brightened as she talked about other restaurants she had worked at and how much she loved living in Sarasota. She mentioned that her mother was very sick and how worried she was about her. When we finished, we tipped her generously and ended up giving her a big hug as we wished her and her mother well. She smiled and told us to please come back soon and make sure we sat at one of her tables.
A moment in time. A decision to reach out, to be curious rather than judgmental, to listen, to care. A decision to choose to love.Â It is the love not given that we regret. And that moment can never be recaptured. So why not give love every chance you get? And what better time than now?
Brenda Strausz is a holistic psychotherapist with a practice in Southfield, MI. She combines traditional and alternative techniques to help you live with more ease, joy and freedom. Her belief in the healing power of love and forgiveness guides her work. She can be reached through her website at www.BrendaStrausz.com or email@example.com.
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