Profession: psychotherapist, Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner
For as long as I can remember my dream was to be a psychologist. I did not follow my dream however until age 49, after my last child left for college. The wisdom I gained through my years as a wife, mother, friend and educator is invaluable. This classroom called “life” was its own great education!
I love helping women increase their self-love and make peace with the past. When I view my clients through a lens of love, they see themselves through that same light. The smallest act of loving-kindness can have a huge effect on the world.
Mid-life is an empowering time. I used to worry a lot, but now I stay present. I used to worry about the future and fret about the past, which caused anxiety and depression. Now, I stay in the moment, a peaceful place to be. I used to think I could control other people’s behaviors, but now I know all I can control is myself – my attitudes, thoughts and behaviors. Best of all, at midlife I know that I don’t need things to be happy.
Gratitude helps me get through life’s big bumps. My kids and my granddaughter live out of town and instead of spending my energy bemoaning the fact that they are not local, I am thankful that they are healthy, happy and well-functioning!
Every day, I set an intention, which focuses the work that I do and the approach that I take to everyone in encounter. It feels great to live on purpose! When life has meaning and purpose, every day is an adventure.
Every woman should take the time to find out what makes her come alive and incorporate that into her life as much as possible. Also, it’s imperative to give freely of everything that is alive in you-your smile, your love, your kindness, your spirit, your joy, your time. Treat yourself with love, kindness and compassion. Take care of yourself! If you don’t, your energy will disappear and you’ll have nothing left to give to others.
Don’t use the past as an excuse. Do everything you can to move beyond it so you can be open to living fully, richly and freely.
I have raised my children; I have a great relationship with my husband, kids and extended family. I know what is important in life; I have a career I am passionate about. I know who I am and spend very little time worrying about what others think of me.Â I feel more clear, vibrant and alive than ever!And you can too. Just listen to that little voice inside you and let it lead the way.
Mindful Moments from Brenda Strausz: Transform Your Life with Loving-Kindness
If your compassion does not include yourself it is incomplete. -Jack Kanfield
We all have days when we are just plain down on ourselves.Â Days that we tell ourselves that we are just not good enough.Â If only we were smarter, more efficient, more witty, more attractive.Â On these kinds of days we just want to go back to bed and pull the covers over our eyes.Â I don’t think that most of us would ever talk to our friends the way we talk to ourselves. Instead we would tenderly remind them of their strengths, their wonderful qualities, their beautiful hearts. We may even give them a hug and let them know that we are always there for them.
It is vital that you bring this same kind of loving-kindness to yourself.Â When you do this everything in your life works better. You feel more alert, alive, playful, peaceful and joyful.
Begin by putting a hand on your heart as your connect with your breath. And for just a moment tune into the preciousness of yourself.Â Spend some time really feeling this in your soul.Â Let compassion towards yourself well up inside of you. Life is not always easy but there is a very strong and beautiful part of you that is never broken.
As you inhale, send loving-kindness and compassion to yourself.Â Send it to every organ, every cell, every bone, every system of your body. As you deeply feel that kindness, send it to the imperfectly perfect being that you are.Â After you have given that love to yourself …take a deep breath and exhale as you send that feeling of love out to the whole world.Â Take another deep breath and let it out and see how much more peaceful you feel, how much less anxious, how much more free.
Repeat as often as needed.
Brenda Strausz is a holistic Psychotherapist who practices in the Metro Detroit area. She specializes in anxiety disorders using mindfulness, meditation and energy therapy. She believes strongly in the healing power of love and forgiveness. Brenda can be reached at www.BrendaStrausz.com
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