Finding A Style And Not Giving A Damn

iStock_000010223502XSmallWhy is it that women fear exploring and expressing their true fashion desires?    Are midwest women destined for mundane fashion, disinterested or simply out of the fashion loop?  How can we help and inspire women to find their inner fashion diva and overcome their fear to express her?   This is no easy task living in Michigan.

Women are many times afraid to express themselves out of fear of what others might say (good or bad) or because they don’t know where to start; they’re intimidated.

Television and print are powerful mediums.  They provide us with ideas in creating our own style, yet many times, hype up people and places so much that it all seems distant- as if those fashions are reserved for celebrities only and aren’t obtainable for the rest of the population. (Which is simply not true!)

While I can’t speak for the entire Midwest region (!), I can say that if it’s something you love, you tune into what’s going on and you won’t be out of the fashion loop.  This question reminds me of what Candace Bushnell once said while on her book tour for Sex And The City, “A Carrie exists everywhere, not just in New York City.”

The truth is, we in the mitten need to seek out style; fashion isn’t thrown in front of our faces nor are we in an area that welcomes experimentation.  We don’t have a plethora of shops popping up, access to designer sample sales or a huge amount of exposure to creative peoples. Think in comparison to, if you lived in a city in which you walked to work everyday.  You would be exposed to many people, those of whom you could draw ideas from.  This type of environment is more conducive to trying new things.

The Midwest = mundane fashion mindset is something I encountered when I first moved to Los Angeles. The general school of thought was that I was from a small town and lived on a farm.  “Isn’t that how everyone in Michigan lives?  How did you get this sense of style?”  I must be some type of prodigy! :)

The reason Midwest cities get a bad rap for being out-of-touch is because fashion isn’t a major industry. There’s a lot of talent here and I see the potential for making its mark on the map, but it isn’t a focal point…yet (corn & cars are).

How do you overcome this fear or try something you’re not sure you can pull off? Do it. See what happens.  If you don’t feel comfortable walking out the door, something needs to change.  I do hate to sound cliche and reference SITC again, but does anyone remember SJP before the show? Eek! She didn’t know what she was doing.  Now, she’s looked at as one of the most stylish celebrities. Why? Because she was given an outlet-an atmosphere where she could totally experiment and even easier, have a stylist dress her up and give her access to all kinds of goodies!

So my advice is to try; to experiment; to not give a damn if people question you.  And you’ll get there.  Look to international and national magazines, blogs and online sites.  If you’re ready to start, you can call me and I’ll get you looking how you want and into what makes you feel like YOU–regardless of what the latest US Weekly says you should wear. :))

Lena Piskorowski is a guest fashion writer for askinyourface.com. Lena is a professional stylist and image consultant in the Detro-Metropolitan area. Please visit her website at www.dresslp.com for more fashion inspiration!

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  1. Since I am an addict of Sex and The City DVDs, and enjoy the reactions of others who gasp when I confess to watching the episodes over and over again, I have to agree: Carrie Bradshaw is iconic and universal ( and am I the only one who sees more to the series than the usual dole platitude of ‘chick flick’)? To be honest, I never had a sense of style, and I am from the East Coast! Standing five feet tall, with terribly wide, highly arched,sized 6 feet the typical designer fashions just never did the trick for me, nor I for them. I used to wince when I stared up at my taller friends who had the knack and the shape for clever assessorizing. However, I somehow managed to fall into style by accident; I never felt comfortable leaving the old ‘hippie’ days behind, so I began to dress how I felt ( eccentric at worst, comfortable at best). I still wear jeans and long skirts, turtle neck sweaters and hats of all sizes and shapes. Since most of my wardrobe came from necessity; shoes had to be seriviceable and very unlike Carrie’s Manola Blahniks,so I chose boots and wider sizes with clunkier heels; I also began to sport scarves to dress up a plain turtle neck, and my hats were borne from the desperate need to protect LONG and very curly hair from humidity. Interestingly, I began to notice others were imitating my trademarks, all the way down to the unmatching, inexpensive, and long beaded earrings. I am not certain if this is who I want to be, but I do know it’s who I am

  2. Hi Shen,

    I thoroughly enjoyed reading your comment! The next time I’m out East, we’ll have to watch an episode… or three. :)

    Knowing who you are is the most important step in tuning into how you want to dress. After all, it’s a reflection of your personality. You described falling into your style, but I’m interpreting it as you went about it the right way. You didn’t force yourself to dress a certain way because you thought you should, you went with what felt best. You sound like a Mood Dresser (Yes, that’s an actual term.) and these individuals are usually free-spirited (Ok, I’ll say it, hippies :)). The only question I would ask you is, do you wince at the sight of your imitators? If so, you might not love the style you’ve created.

    How does the saying go? “Mimicking is the sincerest form of flattery.” If nothing more, laugh to yourself about your “following.” Bet you didn’t think anyone was watching!

    Lastly, a quick source that I use for my clients with ‘terribly wide’ feet.
    http://www.endless.com allows you to shop for shoes within very detailed fields. You can search by width size as well as heel height. (i.e. 2-2 3/4″ is a category!) Also, http://www.pimperlime.com is one of my favorite sites for shoes. It is extremely organized and there is even a Comfort section. (So you can be comfortable without sacrificing style.)

    Thanks again for the comment. Hope you’ll check back for more entries.

    Lena

    (lena@dresslp.com)

  3. I couldn’t agree more, Lena! I just bought an amazing headband with jewels and feathers – and while I LOVE the way it looks, I’m a little nervous to wear it because it’s so Vogue. I say screw it – I’m wearing it anyway! Let’s kick up Midwest style a couple of notches. Lynne

  4. Lynne,

    I love your enthusiasm! (And I’m interested in checking out this accessory of yours. :)) Sounds like you’ve got the attitude to carry it!

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